I've always thought one of the more lame defenses is when someone says, "I think you're judging me!" Here's a warning---I'm constantly judging you. It's a necessary survival tool. What's wrong is if I use my conclusions to assume any sort of superiority.
There are different levels to this evaluation, and you can't convince me it doesn't go both ways. Is this person going to hurt me or anyone else? Are they going to make things better or worse? Are they interesting or boring?
The ongoing judgment is based on your personal growth of wealth. I don't mean money or stuff, though. I'll do my best to figure out what God gave you to work with, mixed in with the challenges you've faced, and look at what sort of rich life you've carved for yourself. This rich life by no means has to be MY idea of a rich life. As long as you have some interest--raising children, living off the land, collecting Beanie Babies, ice fishing, making soap....and you passionately pursue these interests, you're building wealth towards a rich life. If, though, you put more effort into distracting yourself from wealth through addiction to food, alcohol, porn, video games, gambling, defining yourself through things you did long ago, whatever---you are squandering life. That's poverty.
The wealthiest people I know are the ones that were handed some pretty daunting challenges yet developed some very keen interests and continually pursue them. Most of the wealthiest people I know are Moms.